What Not to Do
Writing is not for the faint of heart. It can be a beast. I've worked hard to tame and befriend the beast over the years and want to share some life lessons, many of which I've unearthed through meditation and studying mindfulness, some of which are also applicable to writing. Jon Kabat Zinn calls meditation a radial act of sanity. I encourage you to grow a mindfulness practice in the quest to stay sane.
One podcast that regularly resonates with me is Ten Percent Happier. Dan Harris hosts unbelievable guests from all walks of life. In this deep-dive episode, his guest Bonnie Duran explores the connections between the dharma and the indigenous wisdom of her forebears. Bonnie Duran is a social work and public health professor at University of Washington, Indigenous Wellness expert, and Buddhist meditation teacher. In the interview, she lays out a simple six-word meditation to get through anything.
Dr. Duran explains how everything we are trying to accumulate, to have, and to be are never perfect, permanent, or personal. Part of the reason we suffer is we expect things to be something they can never be. Nothing can ever bring us lasting satisfaction. One of the reason things can't be totally satisfying is because they are always changing.
I am taking her idea a step further by applying it to "what not to do" in your writing life.
Not Perfect - Perfection is not the goal. Writing can be ugly and visceral. If you dredge the stream for a false ideal of perfection, your writing will get muddy or lost.
Not Permanent - Everything changes. Keep moving. It's a process. Try new things. Don't let anything be too precious.
Not Personal - This one may be the hardest for writers. Rejection is a real part of being a working writer. Don't take anything personally.
Listen to Bonnie's wisdom on Ten Percent Happier podcast, Episode 300. "Six Words to Get You Through a Bad Day with Bonnie Duran"